Having a tough time getting a good night sleep? Anxiety, stress and worry - all commonplace in our modern day world - can make it tough to sleep or stay asleep. When you don't get a good night's sleep symptoms like agitation, depression and frustration can haunt your days. Those looking to get some rest may turn to sleep medication or an anti-anxiety pill to get some rest. Although this may be temporarily effective this western "solution" can lead to dependency and lots of negative side-effects.
Luckily by re-aligning your life schedule with nature and making a few other simple "Sleep-Hygiene" lifestyle updates you can be getting great sleep again. Join us in an interview with Dr. Heidi Albete N.D., a naturopathic doctor based at Taspen's Healing Center in Conifer, CO. Looking for more free sleep help from Dr. Heidi? Check out her 5 all-natural Sleep Tips here!
Trying to out think your anxiety simply doesn't work. Feeling like you've done something wrong for not knowing how to feel better only makes anxiety worse. Anxiety also won't go away by trying to fix external situations. True relief from anxiety lies in connection with the body.
Join Travis Rumsey, Neurosculpting and TRE (Tremor Release Exercises) Practitioner, in this conversation about regulating the nervous system (ie going from stress to ease) with simple tools to feel relief from anxiety. Imagine the individual mental health and the impact you can have on your relationships and ultimately the world by acting from a peaceful, empowered and connected place!
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Many of us are currently feeling anger and disgust with our political and social systems. We are also having tons of anxiety and grief around all that has changed during the COVID era. Piper Makepeace of Heart of the Matter Retreat and I discuss ways in this video to reduce shame and feel internally all the intense feelings coming up around what is going on so we can survive and even thrive in this challenging time.
Trauma has become part of our everyday reality. There's no need to list the specific atrocities of this world. We live them daily.
You may be left wondering lately, how are we to live in a world like this?
Although it may seem counter-intuitive, it may not be the best strategy to immediately try and fix what is broken out there in the world. We must first do our internal work before engaging externally.
When tragedy, unjustness and strife strike, we first need to STOP and attend to the completely normal feelings that come up when exposed to the results of an often sick and confused culture. We can't keep our heads down and keep going on consuming, working and spinning in confusion like we always have. It’s OK and healthy to feel our raw, unfiltered and yes, often excruciating, emotions.
The meditation practice of RAIN with Tara Brach - Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture
- is a great starting point to be with your feelings before making those external changes. After all, we don't want our pain to overflow to others.
Before reacting externally from a place of unchecked emotionality, anger and pain we must take some time to process and understand the grief we are feeling. Do whatever it takes to pause and feel. Try the STOP, DROP and ROLL Mindfulness practice. This is not the famous fire prevention ad from 80s TV! In this context it means, when you are feeling off inside you STOP what you are doing. DROP the storyline and sit with your feelings. Finally, ROLL - meaning feel and process - the underlying feelings.
Next, get into your body and out of the monkey mind. Move your body. Shake (as taught here by the Neurosculpting Institute). Dance. Stomp your feet. Hum. Shout. Do a body scan. Splash cold water on your face. Breathe deep into your belly. These things will calm your nervous system.
In this crazy world, we need as many of us as possible to have regulated nervous systems. We can’t shift things if we come at the world from an angry, upset, dysregulated place. Without rushing your process – it may take minutes or days – do whatever regulating practice you have until your mind and body feel calm, centered and clear. Then - and only then - make a plan for compassionate action to do something within your control to help raise consciousness in our culture.
We often feel out of control when traumatic experiences happen because we don’t know what to do about them. Hopefully this post gives you an action plan of what to do anytime something traumatic occurs. I’m convinced that the more each individual does this practice the less often, less severe and more intelligently resolved these external situations will be. The only way to peace, "out there," is to realize it already exists within you and then project that commonsense wisdom out into the world.
To review, when the next unthinkable act happens... stop and feel, take time to process, do your internal work; see through your anger, fear and dismay to discover your birth right of presence and wisdom and then respond/contribute/vote/protest/make change from this place of inherent your inherent peace, wisdom and presence.
Great news everyone, we can relax! All the fear around the latest superbug is true. You can get sick and even die. It’s also a fact that we are interdependent and of course we can catch each other’s sickness no matter how much we buy into the delusion of separateness. We are connected, not separate.
Of course, we’ll do our best to not spread the germs but is the panic and shock around this virus helpful? Is a dysregulated nervous system due to constant stress, warnings, upsetting news cycles and anxiety supporting a healthy immune system to help us stay well?
The reason we can exhale is the fact that you can get sick and die has been true every moment of your life. If we are surprised by the news of illness and demise perhaps, we’ve lost site with reality. Since the first breath we took we’ve been dying. We’ve all been dying and being reborn our whole lives. This latest virus scare is one of the greatest teachers our culture has received in a while. Although we never wish for a disease to happen it is what is happening. How painful is it to resist reality? The recent panic shows how disconnected we are in the west from the reality of life. The Buddhists have known about impermanence and interdependence and have been teaching how it can heal us for more than 2,600 years.
The story of the Buddha is that he was protected from the realities of real life locked away in a refined palace. In this place he had all the finest material things, best foods, highest intellectual teachings, opportunities to have sex etc., and it wasn’t satisfying to him in a lasting way. Somehow, something wasn’t quite right, he was still craving more or tired of what he had. Sound familiar?
All the worldly things only gave him temporary pleasure but never lasting peace. He finally left the village (symbolic of choosing the spiritual path that leads away from confused, mainstream material culture) and snuck into town. Even though his parents were trying to keep the eventual Buddha (awakened one) from seeing reality he looked down an alley and saw an old person; he looked down another and saw a sick person; next he saw bodies at the charnel ground dead and decomposing. He realized in that moment that this was reality. We are all going to get sick and die. Some of us will get old. This is the truth. Is it really a surprise that we can get sick and die even today?
Those that are tuned into reality can breathe and relax. It doesn’t mean we sit back and do nothing to reduce the spread of this virus. In fact, we should consider meditating daily to regulate our nervous system, increase our resilience and tune into our inner healing system by shutting off the news after we learn the basic info needed. We can also stay healthy through self-care, a vibrant diet and the use of our basic intelligence to care for ourselves and others . To reduce our suffering around fear is also the best thing we can do. It is wise to align with reality and stop fighting the truth of our interconnectedness and mortality. When we feel out of control it’s helpful to tune into what we can control. And, what we can control is our relationship to what is happening. The teachings say that pain is unavoidable, yet suffering is 100% optional. The only time we suffer is when we fight our reality just like we’re doing now with this latest virus.
There’s really no need to panic. We can see this as an important wake up call. Every day that you leave your family and friends to drive to work you could easily die on your car ride. Sickness and death have no predictable timing. It’s truly magic and a gift that we are even here today to read these words. You may have noticed that you have friends and family who died at all ages of life. You’ve probably heard of famous people that have died. No one at any time is immune to sickness and death. We’ve never had a guarantee that we’re going to live a long life.
I wonder if we can use this latest scare as an impermanence practice. It’s something the Buddhists do every day. They reflect on the four thoughts that turn mind to the dharma (practice). They meditate on four things - precious human birth, impermanence, karma and defects of samsara. This helps the practitioner come to terms with the reality that this life is precious (when lived in practice); this life is short; that what we do in our unenlightened state of confusion will create a painful future result (so we better wake up and practice truth) and that we all lose the people, places and things we love and have things happen to us that we don’t want to happen. In other words, in our ignorance we suffer unnecessarily. Simply by tuning into reality we can be free.
Every day, Buddhists around the world meditate on the fact that the next breath could be their last. This isn’t morbid, this helps you feel alive and to see the preciousness of each moment. They start their day with gratitude for the opportunity to be alive and to practice and to be with those they love. This remembrance of reality keeps them from over investing their time in worldly concerns that can only bring temporary happiness and instead live 24/7 in limitless peace, ease, joy, compassion and equanimity.
Perhaps every time we get one of these scary emails about the virus shutting down yet another event or the big news that we should wash our hands and not cough on each other, it could be a reminder to appreciate every moment we have with our friends and family. Most importantly it could be a push to let go of our confusion and delusion about this external world being able to provide stability so we can look inside and more deeply tune into the reality of limitless peace.
We all want to look and feel our best. Even when you have a great diet and exercise program, there are still times when life leaves us feeling tired, stressed, and overworked. To truly feel your best, regular self-care is just as important as everything else you do to stay healthy. Self-caredoesn’t have to be expensive or time consuming. It’s as simple as making sure your basic needs are met and doing simple things daily to reduce stress and care for your mental health.
The Physical/Mental Health Connection
Actions we take every day impact how we feel both mentally and physically. Start by making a practice of giving yourself a quick self-care evaluation. Do you feel sluggish? Do you get headaches? How about tummy trouble? Sometimes, we’re too busy with the chaos of life to stop and really get to the cause of these issues.
When you have physical and emotional symptoms, there may be some underlying imbalance going on. For example, many people don’t realize that gut healthis related to all kinds of health issues. One of the best things you can do to feel your best is care for the healthy bacteria in your gutand consider whether supplements or changes to your diet could make a difference, like adding in more prebiotic- and probiotic-rich foods.
Another overlooked necessity that many of us are lacking is sleep. Despite being a natural self-care practice, it’s truly a common struggle. If you’re stressed out, you may even have physical symptomsthat keep you up at night, like tense muscles or a racing heart. Whatever the reason, make it a priority to address sleep issues.
Self-Care to Reduce Stress
Stress isn’t always at the root of our problems, but it often plays a dominant role in our lives. Along with making sure your basic needs are met, try some of these simple tips that can help put a stop to stress.
Exercise does more than just help you get in shape. Physical activity is a great stress buster too. If you’re new to exercise, joining a formal fitness program or gym with group classes may be a good way to get on track, and your membership may be covered by your insurance. Certain Medicare Advantage plans like Humana’s offer senior citizens free membership to SilverSneakers, which gives enrollees access to fitness centersand programs all over the country, while insurance companies like Kaiser Permanenteoffer discounts on gym memberships to their clients. In addition to your regular workouts, mix up your routine so you won’t get bored with it. Put on your favorite music and dancefor a jolt of joy, or do a quick yoga session for relaxation.
Keep yourself motivated and accountable by working out with a friend. Another way to stay motivated is to set goals. Many people are now choosing to use a smartwatch or fitness tracker to help them measure their progress (and to see if they’re reaching goals). Many of the latest fitness-monitoring devices can count steps, measure calories burned, and track your heart rate. For instance, Apple recently unveiledthe Apple Watch Series 5 which features fall detection, a built-in compass, and always-on retina display. If you’re looking for a budget-friendly alternative, the Fitbit Charge 3 offers seven-day battery life, water resistance, and sleep tracking.
Try creative expression
Art therapistswill tell you that using some form of creative self-expression helps you slow down, focus inward, and leave stress behind. If you don’t already have a creative hobby, try journaling. These promptsfrom the blog Aim Happy will help you get your creative juices flowing.
Just say no
One of the main reasons stress has become such a regular part of everyday life is that we are constantly busy. Forbes recommends being completely clear (and honest with yourself) about your priorities, and be willing to say no to spending time on things that don’t align with your priorities.
Sure, you breathe all the time without even thinking about it, but did you know that spending just a few minutes on mindful breathing can make dramatic changes in your emotional state? Breathing techniquescan make you feel more energized and alert or more relaxed, depending on which one you use.
Self-care truly is about taking a step back and making your needs a priority, even when it seems easier to neglect them. Start devoting part of your day to feeling better and discovering the best version of you.
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By Erik Vienneau
Have you ever had the experience of fear trying to stop you right when you were ready to allign with your deepest vision and succeed? That's exactly what happened to me recently - which I gratefully overcame - and I want to share how to overcome this common challenge with YOU.
I LOVE offering AWAKE meditation retreats! It's part of my passion in life to be of service. It aligns with my life's vision to reduce confusion and uncover our shared birth-right of Loving Kindness, Compassion, Joy and Equanimity (aka the Four Immeasurables). In every day terms - this passion revs me up and makes me feel alive!
But then the fear hit. My belly and chest got tight. My breathing quickened. My thoughts took a turn to negative town. I was hooked by fear - the great destroyer of dreams! The feelings of fear felt so bad that they made me want to hit the brakes and cancel an upcoming retreat just because we don't have many folks signed up yet (which makes sense as we haven't gotten the word out much yet!). What if no one comes? That would affirm my fear and prove to my lower vibrating mind that the ego was right. The deeply entrenched thought - that many of us share - "I'm not worthy of living the life of my dreams" - took over.
Thank God for the three jewels (Buddha and all the sages!), Dharma (the teachings) and Sangha (friends on the path) for getting me back on track to my highest potential. I quickly applied some regulating techniques that I'm learning about at the Neurosculpting institute to get out of fight/flight mode and back to center. I breathed deep into my belly, did a mindful body scan and started to calm down. I said to myself gently, "thinking, thinking" and let the self-limiting thoughts go on their way. After a talk with Derik Easilus, who co-leads our next day-long mindfulness retreat on Sunday Oct 13 at Newport Street Retreat about how JOY trumps FEAR every time I was back on track!
After the fear was gone and the JOY flooded back into my system I remembered to follow my bliss and am now proud to report our next retreat is up and ready for registration here. We even have chef Heidi Dietz on board to provide a super-clean veg lunch for you! Watch the latest installment of AWAKE5 video on our YouTube channel (quick powerful videos with amazing folks to help you live the mindful life) to see just how inspiring Derik can be! Hope to SEE YOU on retreat!
Did you know from an Ayurvedic perspective that in the winter you should be eating warm foods made from root vegetables? Check out this AWAKE5 (helpful wellness tips in around 5 minutes!) video and Asiana Harper's recipe for her tasty and healthy Carrot Ginger Soup below!
Carrot Ginger Soup
2 pinch black pepper
2 whole carrots
2 tblsp celery stalk
1/4 inch ginger
2 tblsp olive oil
1/4 tsp salt
Put carrots, ginger, celery into a blender. Fill to the height of the vegetables with water. Purée. Pour into pot and boil with other ingredients, Cook 10 to 15 minutes = YUM!
Vata pacifying nourishing and warming
- Fleeting Stillness -
Do Words Matter?
Our Feelings Strong
These Marks Fleeting
Blown From Fire
So Much Light – Most Unseen
To Die With Our Song Unsung?
Our Fire Bright
Perfect Expression Fleeting
Blurred By Confusion of Self
Trying in Place of Being
In One Way Nothing Matters
In Another Everything Does
Talking Instead of Listening
Moving In Place of Stillness
Ego Expression Pointless
Exhausted from the Chase
Into a Cave an Escape
To Not Express - a Life Unlived?
Not Able to Hear God
Although She Always Speaks
Busyness Silencing Her Voice
Ego Confused With Her Expression
Stop And Listen
Can You Hear?
Beyond Ego She Speaks
Can You Feel Her Beauty?
Can We Be a Vessel?
Can we Calm the Noise?
Roiling in our Head
Violently Crushing Her Voice
Oh, This Ego!
Won’t You Die?
Longing for Freedom From Your Cries
Praying to Hear and Express Her
In That Fleeting Stillness
All Answers Found
Why So Lost in the Noise?
God Reveal Yourself to Me
And In that Sweet Moment
In Between the Thoughts
In the Silence of Her
We Are Found